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I love being in love, but at the same time I loathe it. I don’t know if it’s just me, but the beginning of a relationship; is the best part of the relationship, and then it’s down hill from there. I don’t know what the heck happens exactly but it’s like one day you wake up and half the magic is gone or on it’s way out the door.
For example, one minute you’re sending each other flirty texts all day, and the next minute you’re hardly checking in, let alone texting each other at all.
Or maybe you and your partner go from being intimate several times a week, to now being intimate a couple times a month. No matter what the change is you can feel it and you can’t help but wonder:
1. What’s changed?
2. When? and…
3. How can we fix it before it’s too late?
It’s easy to notice when a relationship has changed; but not always as easy to pinpoint WHEN the change began. Either way once you notice that things are no longer the same it can be a very unsettling feeling. Your confidence and self esteem may even be bruised.
It’s my belief that relationships change due to one or both parties becoming “too comfortable” in the relationship. When a party is too comfortable in a relationship they become lax in the normal things they were doing in the beginning to win their partners affection, and this will automatically change the dynamic of the relationship. At this point you’ve to decide if the changes are worth looking past, or if they will be a deal breaker moving forward.
Can some couples get that spark back. Sure! Especially if they have great communication, but for a majority of people the hard core truth is: the person you met in the beginning, never existed at all. #FalseAdvertising
My advice: get out before the honey moon is over lol
Dear 14 Year Old Me,
It’s me your older self and by older, I mean much older. I’ve traveled back to the past in Marty’s Delorean to deliver this message to you. I know you have a lot going on in your life right now and your emotions are all over the place. You’re changing in many ways and it seems that nobody seems to understand you or doesn’t care to try. I want you to know that there are people in your life right now, who you are trying to please because you think their opinions matter the most but, trust me when I tell you they DON’T. The ones you think will be around forever WON’T. It is imperative that you use the next 3-4 years of your life wisely as it will save you much pain.
Your a beautiful young lady, with a bright personality and a great sense of humor. You don’t know it yet but you are wonderful just the way you are. Many people will come into your life who will try to tell you differently and make you feel like less don’t believe them when they do. Keep your head held high remembering what I told you: their plan is to break your spirit because they are unhappy with themselves.
BOYS stay away from boys at all cost until my next letter! We are now 34 years old and it doesn’t look good! Listen, it’s better to stay put until my next letter…until then, keep your legs closed, feet on the ground, and your nose in the books young lady you, do hear me?! No, you’re not imaging things, in the future, we sound a lot like mom today. I know, I know our worst nightmare come true, but trust me, you’ll thank me later when you’re the first black woman president of the United States *wink*
Oh and another thing you’re not into doing your hair and nails now but there will come a time when you will develop into a mature woman and insecurities will start to kick in. When the weave and lace front trends start taking off do not, I repeat DO NOT join the movement you’ll thank me later. We have a full head of natural hair that grows right from our scalp, perm free too honey,; ain’t that something girl. In the future natural is in, just like the 70s *smiles*. I see you rolling your eyes but it’s true, you look absolutely stunning in your 100% natural state. Sooo please, big chop your hair today so that we can have Pocahontas length hair by age 20, thanking you in advance.
I don’t have much time left, you’re only 14 years old, and your peanut brain can’t process too much yet. Keep in touch with one of your male childhood friends. The one you love the most, he will leave school early to start his own journey in life and become very successful in life. The sign: he will come to your house personally to tell you that he is leaving ,he will miss you too. You will be very saddened by this and think you’ve lost him forever but you must know that you haven’t. You don’t know it yet but you’ll reconnect many more times in life and as of today, he is the crush of your life and just as wonderful in the future as he is today. One of the few people who has never changed. The beautiful thing about it is that whether you take my advice on this or don’t the stars will still align so that you’re in each other lives again.
You’re smart, you love reading books, learning new things and have an avid love for the Lord don’t worry so much, you’re smarter than you know and capable of so much. I can’t wait until you see all the things you’ll accomplish and even more if you heed to my letter. Your biggest downfall and main hurdles in the 10 years will be boys and fake friends. If you can spot them now or as I said earlier; simply focus on what’s important: God, family, studying, work you’ll have fewer tears in life and more joy.
Okay, baby girl the Delorean is running out of the plutonium, and I’ve no idea how to conjure up a lightning bolt to get back to 2019; and while this trip has been rather nostalgic, if I hear Will Smith’s “Getting Jiggy With It” one more time I just might shoot myself, what the heck were we thinking. Anyway, I’ll leave you with this; the future is female, it’s all about being independent and making it on your own coins. but don’t worry you’ll have a head start as you’ll start your first job within a year at age 15. Im proud of you already. Oh, by the way, there’s a new girl group that came out this year called Destinys Child, we stan them. Next year they will drop a hit called “Independent Women” this will be one of your favorite songs ever, it will stay of repeat and will continue to be the theme song of your life.
Love you so much with all my heart and soul,
P.S. Beyonce is still here in the future lol
Okay, we’ve all been guilty this: starting something, and not finishing it. Whether it was a failed New Years resolution or a more serious life decision like dropping out of school, we all have a “I started but didn’t finish” story. I personally have a very bad habit of not finishing what I start. Now I wouldn’t say that I am a quitter or a slacker, but I do believe that I often take on a lot of tasks, biting off more than I can chew eventually, this will lead me to become overwhelmed, and the process of elimination would begin. Something that I had “started” would now have to be stopped or given up.
For as long as I can remember I have always invested in myself in any way possible. While some self-improvement requires money most do not. I’ve always also believed that anything not growing is dead so I made a choice to grow and to grow every day.
I am now at the point in my life where I want to clean up a lot of old habits and replace them with new and healthy ones. Through this process, I realized that there were a lot of projects that I had put to the side that I wanted to revisit. Honestly, I was surprised to see just how much I hadn’t finished. Just when I was beginning to feel like a failure and melancholy about it all, it hit me. I remembered my NEW goal, to replace old habits with new and healthy ones. Que light bulb moment here: “Why not go back and finish what you started, it’s not too late there’s still plenty of time!”
The first thing I did was get organized by making a list of “things to do”, and boy did it feel good! For me, the reward in finishing is not financial gain, but the satisfaction of knowing that:
- I knew I could do it
- It’s NEVER too late to finish something you started but did not complete
- Never having to wonder what could of, should of, would of happen if I just kept going.
- Realizing that replacing old habits with new and healthy ones DOES was a great idea after all!
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One thing that is seriously lacking in the world today is “acceptance”. Why can’t we accept people for who THEY are? Often times I find myself under the critical magnifying glass of society, my family and peers, and every time it is another harsh reminder that I am not, and may never be 100% accepted by anyone, like ever.
Sure, everyone is entitled to their feelings, more importantly I’ve learned a long time ago that what other people think about me is none of my business but I’d be lying if I said that I wasn’t saddened at the reality that at times even my own mother doesn’t accept me, for me and or doesn’t understand anything about me. Not even after 34 years of life. Do I still love her of course! But again, I’d be lying if I said that it didn’t affect me.
Every where you look people are scrambling about, going under the knife, starving their selves, pretending to be something they are not, jumping through numerous hoops and hurdles just to be accepted, loved, appreciated, seen etc. To me it’s all in vain. The fact is we will never fit perfectly into any one “box” or picture perfect image of what people THINK we should look like.
We must ask ourselves who is this “person” or group of people to us, that we value their opinion so much? Why do we care? We can even dig deeper and say, what is it about me that constantly provokes this person to criticize me, put me down etc?
The truth is it’s not you at all, it’s THEM. It’s always been them. What people don’t like about themselves they will openly project out onto you. It’s like the saying goes “confidence is silent, insecurities are loud.” and boy are their insecurities loud. Their insecurities are so loud, they awaken our own insecurities.
Live and let live, that’s my new motto. One of the most beautiful and underestimated things in this life next to God and LOVE is acceptance. Acceptance is love. Acceptance says you’re perfect just the way you are, flaws and all. Acceptance says “you CAN sit with us!”
Acceptance is a priceless gift that keeps on giving.
Welcome to acceptance.
✨ And so it begins, the journey of writing and I’m so excited 😆 I find at times that the process of writing can take you through a variety of emotions, frustration being one of the main ones lol. If I’m going to achieve my writing goals this year, it is very important that I stay focused, inspired and encouraged as much as possible and that is the reason for this page 😁I hope to motivate and inspire other writers to keep going, most of all to keep ✍🏽 even if it’s one sentence a day! Let’s connect, motivate, and inspire one another 📝
✨ Call me old fashioned but I still use the traditional pen and paper method for all of my rough drafts ☺️. As a matter of fact, I prefer to use a ✏️ over a pen as the pencil allows me to edit my mistakes easier and in a more organized way ✔️There’s something very special about staring at a physical blank page in front of your face as opposed to a digital blank page on a device 💻. For me it creates a more personal experience, like the joy you get when you receive a handwritten letter 📬 versus the modern day email or text 📱message. 📝❤️
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Looking at the layout for this typing app I am suddenly inspired to buy an old typewriter of my own. Typewriting to me has always been an art. My earliest memory of the typewriter is from when I was a child, spending weekends, and holiday recesses with relatives. I would often see my older cousin typing several college papers on her trusty typewriter.
I remember seeing her insert a sheet of paper then measure accurately to make sure that everything was aligned perfectly before she began to type. I remember her frustration changing the ribbons and that she had lots of white out. Most of all I will never forger how amazed I was watching her type away on her typewriter.
First because it always seemed like such a “serious” task that had to be done with a great deal of care. There was plenty room for error and with every letter she typed I would hold my breath hoping for the best. This was the early 90’s, and over the next few years she mastered the typewriter.
My generation has no idea how to use a type writer, we are the generation that appeared just before the world wide web. Is it possible that some of my peers have used a typewriter in their lifetime? Of course, stenographers in court rooms for example. What I mean is, my generation learned how to type on a the earliest computers. In time some of us mastered the art of typing, while others to this day are still unable to properly use a keyboard let alone a computer.
Computers have not completely replaced typewriters you can still buy a typewriter today. Most of them are electric and cost anywhere from $150.00-$400.00 . If I were to invest in a typewriter I personally would look for a traditional non electric typewriter. I don’t know why, I guess because of the challenge that it would bring. The challenge of learning how to become ONE with the typewriter. To me the typewriter symbolizes patience, as it requires a lot of patience and perseverance to master it.
Is it me or did the era of typewriting seem to produce some of the most intellectual human beings of our century. Different from the type of human beings we see today who use a computer? Is it possible the the computer is setting us back by dumbing us down?
This concludes my thoughts on the typewriter, thank you for reading..