Dear 14 Year Old Me,
It’s me your older self and by older, I mean much older. I’ve traveled back to the past in Marty’s Delorean to deliver this message to you. I know you have a lot going on in your life right now and your emotions are all over the place. You’re changing in many ways and it seems that nobody seems to understand you or doesn’t care to try. I want you to know that there are people in your life right now, who you are trying to please because you think their opinions matter the most but, trust me when I tell you they DON’T. The ones you think will be around forever WON’T. It is imperative that you use the next 3-4 years of your life wisely as it will save you much pain.
Your a beautiful young lady, with a bright personality and a great sense of humor. You don’t know it yet but you are wonderful just the way you are. Many people will come into your life who will try to tell you differently and make you feel like less don’t believe them when they do. Keep your head held high remembering what I told you: their plan is to break your spirit because they are unhappy with themselves.
BOYS stay away from boys at all cost until my next letter! We are now 34 years old and it doesn’t look good! Listen, it’s better to stay put until my next letter…until then, keep your legs closed, feet on the ground, and your nose in the books young lady you, do hear me?! No, you’re not imaging things, in the future, we sound a lot like mom today. I know, I know our worst nightmare come true, but trust me, you’ll thank me later when you’re the first black woman president of the United States *wink*
Oh and another thing you’re not into doing your hair and nails now but there will come a time when you will develop into a mature woman and insecurities will start to kick in. When the weave and lace front trends start taking off do not, I repeat DO NOT join the movement you’ll thank me later. We have a full head of natural hair that grows right from our scalp, perm free too honey,; ain’t that something girl. In the future natural is in, just like the 70s *smiles*. I see you rolling your eyes but it’s true, you look absolutely stunning in your 100% natural state. Sooo please, big chop your hair today so that we can have Pocahontas length hair by age 20, thanking you in advance.
I don’t have much time left, you’re only 14 years old, and your peanut brain can’t process too much yet. Keep in touch with one of your male childhood friends. The one you love the most, he will leave school early to start his own journey in life and become very successful in life. The sign: he will come to your house personally to tell you that he is leaving ,he will miss you too. You will be very saddened by this and think you’ve lost him forever but you must know that you haven’t. You don’t know it yet but you’ll reconnect many more times in life and as of today, he is the crush of your life and just as wonderful in the future as he is today. One of the few people who has never changed. The beautiful thing about it is that whether you take my advice on this or don’t the stars will still align so that you’re in each other lives again.
You’re smart, you love reading books, learning new things and have an avid love for the Lord don’t worry so much, you’re smarter than you know and capable of so much. I can’t wait until you see all the things you’ll accomplish and even more if you heed to my letter. Your biggest downfall and main hurdles in the 10 years will be boys and fake friends. If you can spot them now or as I said earlier; simply focus on what’s important: God, family, studying, work you’ll have fewer tears in life and more joy.
Okay, baby girl the Delorean is running out of the plutonium, and I’ve no idea how to conjure up a lightning bolt to get back to 2019; and while this trip has been rather nostalgic, if I hear Will Smith’s “Getting Jiggy With It” one more time I just might shoot myself, what the heck were we thinking. Anyway, I’ll leave you with this; the future is female, it’s all about being independent and making it on your own coins. but don’t worry you’ll have a head start as you’ll start your first job within a year at age 15. Im proud of you already. Oh, by the way, there’s a new girl group that came out this year called Destinys Child, we stan them. Next year they will drop a hit called “Independent Women” this will be one of your favorite songs ever, it will stay of repeat and will continue to be the theme song of your life.
Love you so much with all my heart and soul,
P.S. Beyonce is still here in the future lol